About The Site

WHAT IS THE SITE ABOUT?
As the name implies, the site is an exploration into the definition of "EROTICA" as used in today's culture and language.  Our platform is a simple one, created from the perspective of close friends talking about the notion of erotica in our everyday lives.

We understand that there is a distinction between the notion of Erotica and Pornography as is expressed in more detail throughout this site.

We believe that sexuality is a vital part of our humanity and should not be shunned or suppressed or labeled as something negative, dirty or evil.  As with anything we choose to do with our bodies and minds, understanding who be are and how to relate our bodies and minds to the external world around us is key to living a healthy lifestyle.  

Sexual compatibility with those we are intimate with in our lives is crucial to erasing the need for deceit and indiscretion involved in extra-marital relationships.  This comes from a better understanding of what we, as sexual beings are predisposed to find arousing based NOT on what society dictates but on what we naturally find arousing.  

Whether good or bad, our sexual preferences are greatly formed by experiences (forgotten or remembered) from our youth. In knowing and understanding that our feelings and needs are NORMAL WITHIN REASONABLE BOUNDARIES, we are better able to relate to others around us, comfortable in the understanding of our own natural boundaries, regardless of what we think other people's boundaries are.

We all have different "kinks".  Some are very simple (I can't have an orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation) and some are more complicated (the idea of being restrained in a sex swing, gagged and penetrated roughly really excites me...). Anything close to and beyond the latter example tends to be labeled as "kinky", "fetish" or "extreme". There are those that are aroused by the sight of pretty feet on a lady or the feeling of the bald head of a man.  There are those who need to hear certain words (the aurally-stimulated among us) and those who would love to have an audience (the exhibitionist among us) while engaged in a sexual act. 

Of course, it must be said that NOT ALL FANTASIES WE HAVE are scenarios that we would actually want to (or be able to) do in real life.  

In knowing oneself, one is better equipped to understand the difference between our sexual fantasies and what we actually need in our sexual realities. Many of the scenes I love to watch, I would NEVER want to actually experience - yet I find watching them arousing.  

What is Erotica? is therefore a gentle exploration of your true sensual self. It gives you the opportunity to explore what arouses you (and how much it does) by talking about and showing you some of the things we like. It gives you the option of being honest with yourself (if with no one else).  Hopefully it frees your mind by eliminating guilt because you think others do not think the way you do. But they do.

WHO IS THE SITE WRITTEN FOR?
If you have read the above section, particularly the last two paragraphs, you will understand that we write for those who typically do not feel free enough to honestly explore their true erotic nature, their sexual preferences - their "kinks". Either verbally or actually.

We want you to know that the woman in your office who quotes Psalms all day long is a sexual being too - and it's OK. We want you to know that that clean-cut Executive in the tailor-made suit with a lovely wife and adorable family thinks constantly about being forced onto his knees and instructed to stick his tongue out and caress the sensitive bud between a woman's legs.  How wonderful it would be if his wife knew he felt that way and obliged him once in a while....


We want you to know that more people than not are in some way or other acting out their erotic needs. They do not have to rent pornographic material to do so, nor do they have to have illicit affairs. There are many ways to learn about your true sensual identity and if you have an interest in doing so, openly or anonymously, this site is for you.  


WHO ARE WE?
We are an extremely conservative (believe it or not) couple (male and female). We live a very regular lifestyle but erotically we are open-minded thinkers - adventurous and free.  We are your anonymous friends and confidants. We believe strongly in privacy, anonymity and non-judgmental communication. Most blogs and articles are written by the lady (yes, one can be an erotic fiend and a lady at the same time... :-) ). The gentleman handles the technical matters and addresses questions that require a man's perspective.

If you have any questions about the erotica (or lack thereof) in your life, please get in touch.

Thank you for visiting our site.